Don’t be ashamed if you’ve failed a New Year’s resolution though. We all just admitted to it. And for good reason – New Year’s resolutions are notoriously hard to keep. And why are they so hard to keep? Many reasons. 

Extreme lifestyle changes are difficult to maintain without proper support, and bold goals are nearly impossible to meet without forethought. Instead of attempting some spur-of-the-moment idea, you came up with while making small talk with an acquaintance on New Year’s Eve, use these tips to finally stick to your New Year’s resolution. 

Put Thought Into Your Goals

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Take time to determine your New Year’s resolution. Make it something you actually want to achieve, not just a half-baked (or half-buzzed – pick your poison) idea you formulated two hours before the ball drops. Consider your five-year or 10-year plan.

If you don’t even think about New Year’s resolutions until the New Year actually begins, don’t sweat it. You can begin a couple of weeks later, just as long as those first couple weeks are spent strategizing and planning. It’s going to take work and thought to meet your goals, and you don’t want to enter them unprepared. But more on that later. To start, pick something relevant, and something you actually want to meet. 

Set Attainable Goals

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It’s harder to stick to resolutions than it is to set them, but one reason so many people struggle to keep their resolutions is they set impossible goals. And a resolution is just a goal, right? 

Be realistic. Don’t resolve to work out 90 minutes every day with no current workout regimen (also, don’t work out every day – that’s super unhealthy). Create resolutions you can actually keep. Sure, it’s important to challenge yourself and grow, but it’s got to be attainable, otherwise, you run the risk of not sticking to it. 

It’s good to set a New Year’s resolution associated with your five-year or 10-year plan, or a dream you’ve had your entire life, but far too many people choose a New Year’s resolution that’s five or 10 years away. You’re not going to become a billionaire in one month. Instead, choose a resolution within reach that aligns with your goal, not something that’ll drive you to drink – especially if your resolution is to cut back on alcohol. 

If your dream is to join a rock band, take guitar lessons. If you’re looking to get back in shape, hire a trainer to create a workout plan that meets you where you are. Don’t shoot for the moon if you haven’t got a rocket to ride. 

Don’t Set Too Many Goals

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People also often fail to stick to their resolutions because they set too many. Don’t do that, especially if you’ve never stuck to one before. If last year you canceled your gym membership by March, start with one goal for 2022. 

Realize that there are different types of resolutions. Some are goals that you want to meet before the end of the year. Others are behaviors or attitudes you want to adopt for the entire year.

Determine whether your resolution is a goal or a lifestyle change, and if you have more than one, categorize and prioritize. With lifestyle changes, know they’re not easy to make, especially when you try to do too much at once. You can’t expect yourself to get up earlier, eat healthier, work out more, and be more positive within 24 hours. Those changes take time.

Choose one lifestyle change to begin with, and add more during the year if you’re ready. With goals, you can always set new ones. You don’t have to wait until January 1st to work toward a new goal. In fact, you shouldn’t.

If you have multiple goals you want to achieve this year, work on them one at a time, and move on to new ones once you’ve reached them. This will keep you focused and not overwhelm you. You’ll feel a lot better about yourself if you’re still at the gym in October instead of wearing a t-shirt to the beach in June. 

Be Specific

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Setting unspecified goals is easy. We all say we want to get in shape, or finally write that novel, but getting in shape and writing a novel is hard. Most goals are, especially when they’re unstructured and lack steps. Be specific when setting your resolution.

If your resolution is a lifestyle change, be specific about how you’re going to integrate it into your life. Say your goal is to work out more. Define more. Is it three times a week? Is it adding 10 minutes of cardio to each workout? For goal-oriented resolutions, state exactly what you want to achieve, and make a plan to meet them.

If you want to write a book, create a timeline with smaller goals for each month, week, or day. Plan to write a few thousand words each week. Schedule the date you need to finish your first draft. Have the details worked out. None of us like to do something if we have no idea what we’re doing. Make it easier on yourself by being specific. 

Create a Realistic Timeline

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Timelines are crucial, especially if your resolution is goal-oriented. But what’s more important is making sure they’re realistic. You can’t get a six-pack in a week, and you can’t write a book in a day. You’re a man, not a machine. Determine a timeline that’ll yield results, not work against you and cause you to fail.

Think about your life when you’re creating a timeline. Are you currently working 60 hours a week? Do you have a two-week luxury vacation booked over spring break? Instead of adding a half-hour to your daily workouts, add 10 minutes. Schedule writing breaks while you’re on vacation.  

Make your resolutions work for you. Don’t expect too much when it comes to a resolution, because it’s something you’re adding to your life. Habits take time to develop, and being realistic in that development and planning makes a world of difference.

Write Down Your Resolutions

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If you’ve read anything about manifestation, you know experts say to write down whatever it is you’re hoping to manifest. That dream job you want to land? Write that you want it. The lake house with a private dock you know is going to be for sale within a couple of years? Write that you want it. The same goes for New Year’s resolutions. They’re essentially manifestations, aren’t they? 

Write down specifically what you want to achieve, and put it somewhere you can see and will refer back to often. Put a sticky note on your mirror reminding you to work out today. Pencil into your calendar your guitar lessons for the entire year. Write exactly what you want and how you’re going to get it and refer to it often. 

Find An Accountability Partner

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Goals are not met on their own. Fitness instructors often suggest finding an accountability partner, as do sobriety coaches. Why? They know it’s not easy to achieve things alone. Motivation waxes and wanes, as does discipline. Both are needed to stick to resolutions. 

Finding an accountability partner will help you meet your goals and stick to your lifestyle changes regardless, but especially if they have similar resolutions. Meet for a game of racquetball to close the fitness rings on your Apple Watch. Compare notes of your novels when you hit a tough spot in your plot. Commit not only to yourself but to another person. 

And don’t just work on your goals together, talk about them. Set lunch dates or grab a coffee and go for a walk to discuss your goals. What’s been difficult? What’s been easy? Do you have tips for each other? Talk it out, and do so regularly. 

Re-evaluate at Different Points in the Year

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If you’re making a lifestyle change, it’s a resolution that should last all year. You can’t drink celery juice once and say you’re healthier (nice try though.) Check in at various times throughout the year to evaluate your progress. 

Have you successfully integrated a new workout regimen into your fitness routine? It might be time to add something new. Are you ready to perform a guitar solo at open mic night? Sign up and move on to the next step in your lessons. Always be looking to better yourself, not just in January. 

Scale Back if Necessary

On the flip side, you may be struggling to stick to your resolutions. This is common – far, far too common – but struggle does not have to equate failure. Struggle is part of success. Maybe you bit off more than you can chew. Maybe life got in the way, and other priorities have arisen, making it difficult to stick to the original plan. That’s okay – life gets in the way all the time. Don’t use it as an excuse to quit. 

Instead of telling yourself you’ll do better next year (because let’s be honest, will you do better next year?), scale back a bit. If a massive assignment from your boss has affected your writing time, cut down on words you expect to write per week. If you sprained your wrist golfing, take a few weeks off racquetball and schedule another for next month. 

It’s okay to make a change if necessary. It’s your resolution, and you may need to adjust at certain times throughout the year. Pick back up when you’re ready. 

Find Unique, Enjoyable Ways to Achieve Your Goals

Resolutions often go unmet because we choose something we don’t enjoy. Don’t resolve to get in shape by training for a marathon if you hate running. Don’t write a mystery novel if you hate mysteries. None of us want to do things we don’t enjoy. When you set your resolution, choose something you enjoy.

If you set a resolution unsure of whether or not you like it, it’s perfectly fine to change during the year. If it turns out you hate strength training, try pilates. Can’t stand the sound of the guitar? Switch to drums. Don’t force yourself to continue doing something you hate. New Year’s resolutions are about positive personal growth, and you’re far more likely to see growth if you’re doing something enjoyable.

Keep a Positive Attitude

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When meeting any goal, a New Year’s resolution or not, your mentality is everything. No one meets their goals through negative self-talk. Stay positive when working toward your goals, and be clear about what a positive attitude really is. 

It’s not necessary to hang a sign in your bedroom with a cheesy cliche that’s never actually motivated anyone, and it won’t work to tell yourself you’re going to do everything right every single day. That’s not positive thinking – that’s delusional thinking. 

A positive attitude means you believe in yourself and know that you’ve got the supports in place to meet your goals. If you fall, you won’t get down on yourself, and you’ll get back up and try again. Stay realistic about your goals and remind yourself you can try again. 

Don’t Expect Perfection

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Don’t just tell yourself you might fail, prepare yourself for it if it happens. That’s not said to discourage you from trying – it’s keeping a realistic outlook on your New Year’s resolution. 

One day you’re going to be swamped at work and miss a lesson. Reschedule it. A publisher is going to reject your first draft and tell you to try again. Don’t burn your manuscript. Be prepared for hiccups, take a breath, and continue. No one is perfect, and success doesn’t happen overnight, nor does it without setbacks. Expect them, learn from them, and use them to move forward and meet your resolution.

Plus, if you’ve been working from home for nearly two years, your wardrobe might consist of mostly sweatpants, which isn’t exactly first date material. We’ve assembled fool-proof tricks to create and elevate any first date look, helping you make a great first impression and secure a second date before the night is over.

It’s All About the Venue

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Consider dressing for a first date the way you would any other event. And what’s the first question you ask yourself when choosing an outfit – “where am I going?” Just as you wouldn’t wear a tuxedo to a farm or overalls to an opera house, don’t miss-dress for the first date venue. 

Where did you and your date decide to go? Supper at a local low-key restaurant, coffee, or a walk through a nearby park calls for casual wear. Something you feel confident and presentable in, but would feel uncomfortable wearing to a gala. There’s no need to over-dress. This isn’t a job interview, it’s a date. Wear something you feel relaxed in. 

If you and your date are attending something more formal or higher-brow, consider a dressier look. A friend’s wedding, tickets to an off-Broadway production, or reservations for two at a Michelin-star restaurant calls for upscale clothing to match the upscale vibes. Don’t wear the same outfit you wore to work that day, unless, of course, you work in a very formal environment or had an important meeting that day. Go for something sleek and smart that shows you can dress for any occasion. 

Consider the Time of Day

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Once you’ve established the venue, consider the time of day. Your outfit is going to look much different for a sunset breakfast than a midnight drink. Consider the time of day like you would the overall vibe when choosing an outfit.

Spoiler alert: a tuxedo does not fit the morning, and pajamas do not fit the evening. It may seem like an unnecessary consideration, but it’s not. Even at five-star restaurants, a daytime outfit reads differently than an evening outfit, and you’ve got to know the difference. Wear an outfit appropriate for the time of day. 

Shoes Are Important

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Shoes are shoes are shoes, right? Wrong. Shoes are just as key to an outfit as clothes. They express personal style and send messages to your date. Think of it this way – if you arrive wearing clown shoes, people are going to think you’re a clown. And the last thing you want your date to think of you as is a clown. Wear proper shoes that match your outfit and fit whatever you’re doing on your date. 

For a casual date, a pair of nice sneakers or casual loafers will suffice. If you’re doing something more upscale, wear dress shoes with laces. Dress to impress. Don’t arrive at a swanky restaurant in Air Force 1s. 

Groom

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Grooming is highly individual, but a few standards can help you decide which route to take. When choosing how to groom for a first date consider some things: how did you look when you and your date met? Will they be jarred to see you with a clean face after meeting you with a full beard? Keep your look similar to your first interaction.

If you’ve met multiple times before going on a date, choose a look you’re comfortable with, but tend to it. Don’t arrive at your date with patchy facial hair because you were too lazy to shave, or pull your hair into a bun because you missed your appointment. Be intentional about your grooming habits pre-date, and put some thought into your look. 

Remember, grooming covers the entire body – not just your head. What’s the vibe? Will your date be down for a sleepover afterward? If so, be prepared. Groom according to your comfort level. Whether it’s smooth as a baby’s bottom or unkempt as a jungle, be confident in how you’re presenting yourself to your date if the clothes come off. 

Be Confident

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Nothing is more attractive than confidence, especially when it’s warranted. A man who knows himself and is confident in how he presents himself is undeniably sexy and translates well to a first date. Show your partner or potential partner you’re comfortable with yourself and have arrived dressed in an outfit you love. 

If you’re uncomfortable with your outfit, change. On a first date, you want to display genuine confidence, not the manufactured kind you fake for an important business deal. If you’re uncomfortable in your clothing, you won’t be authentically confident. 

Comfort in clothes is different for everybody. It can be physical comfort from the material of the clothing, or emotional comfort – something you feel good in and know you look good in. Determine what you feel best in, both physically and emotionally, and wear it. This isn’t to say you should wear khaki pants to the beach – don’t be a weirdo. But if you’d rather wear slacks than denim, by all means. As long as you aren’t going to look out of place, wear what makes you feel your best. 

Be Yourself

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Many things are important on a first date, but atop the list is being yourself. You’re on a date for a reason – you’re getting to know each other and starting to determine whether this relationship has long-term potential. To learn whether or not you and your date are compatible, you must be yourself, and that includes what you wear.

It’s easy to write off clothing as a superficial part of life, but there’s so much to learn from even a single outfit a person wears. If you wear something completely out of the ordinary, you risk miscommunicating with your date, leading them to believe something entirely different about you.

Don’t feel you can’t buy a new outfit to wear – new outfits can give us confidence and make us excited about an opportunity to wear them. But choose something you’d wear regardless, not just on a first date. 

But being yourself isn’t an excuse to sport a sloppy look, though. That restaurant you’ve been trying to get into for months won’t let you in with joggers and a hoodie on account of being yourself, and your date won’t be impressed by your lack of effort. Effort is just as sexy as authenticity. 

Must-Try Date Looks

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You didn’t think we’d leave you without specific date look options, did you? Of course not. We’re here to help you delete Tinder, not sabotage your first date. We’ve put together suggestions for looks to wear on four different styles of first dates to help you snag a second, and have your partner describing you to all their friends as “well dressed.”

A Sporty Date Look

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Your first date activity might be something sporty, requiring you to move and stay on your feet, like mini-golf or an amusement park. For these dates, keep material in mind. Opt for something breathable like cotton shorts or pants. They’ll look good, keep you from sweating (no one wants swamp ass on a first date), and be easy to move in.

For a top, again consider how much you might sweat. Depending on the weather, wear a short-sleeve T-shirt, or a lightweight sweater in a dark color. Avoid gray or tan, and go for black if you’re at all worried about pit stains.

Don’t wear a shirt that’s too constricting and limits your movement, and choose shoes that are comfortable to wear while standing for a long period of time. Sneakers or tennis shoes are completely acceptable on a sporty date. 

A Casual Date Look

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Casual dates are the ones at laid-back venues like coffee shops and parks. You aren’t expected to be dressed to the nines, but it’s still important to be put together. For a casual date, forego shorts, even if it’s hot out. If it’s too hot, schedule your date for the evening when it’s cooled off a bit. Shorts are too casual. You can choose between denim or casual trouser, something with a skinny leg and a typical color, like olive or gray. 

Choose your top according to the climate. If it’s snowing outside, your favorite sweater is a perfect option. If it’s sunny and 75, a colored t-shirt will complete your look perfectly. For weather somewhere in between, layer a leather or denim jacket on a t-shirt for effortless vibes. Avoid tank tops at all costs. 

For shoes, try something relaxed like Converse sneakers or casual Oxford loafers. When it comes to shoes, much of the dressiness is based on material, so suede or cloth is the way to go for a casual date. Like tank tops, avoid sandals. Only wear sandals to the beach, unless you don’t want a second date. 

A Business Casual Date Look

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Sometimes dates are scheduled for the middle of the week, in the middle of a workday, or immediately after the workday is done. This isn’t common, but it happens, and you need to be prepared if it does. Luckily, this is an easy look to achieve. It’s basically what you’d wear to work, but on the days you have an important meeting or presentation. 

On important days at work, you’re trying to impress someone, just like you are on a first date. A pressed shirt and a good looking sport jacket are the easiest way to impress someone. Keep your bottoms dressy as well. If you can, schedule your big presentation for the same day as your first date. Two birds, one handsome stone. 

A Dressy Date Look

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Like business casual, dressy is a rarity in date looks. It’s not often you attend an opera or a charity gala on a first date, but it could happen. A tuxedo is probably not necessary, but a three-piece suit, or at the very least, a suit jacket, is required, as is a tie. And if you don’t know how to tie a tie, find a tutorial on YouTube. 

Accessories make or break a dressy outfit, so wear your best watch, tie clip, and matching pocket square to complete the look. You’re sure to get a second date. If not, you’ll get another first date with someone else for sure.

Don’t Stress

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Easier said than done, but of utmost importance – don’t stress about the trip. Don’t put unnecessary pressure on yourself trying to make it romantic. Plan a destination and excursions you know your partner will love, and leave plenty of time to just be together. 

Do Your Research

With the internet, there are hundreds of resources available to help you plan a trip. Not only will this guide help you, but so will countless other videos, articles, agencies, and posts about specific locations, restaurants, activities, and resorts to plan the perfect trip. 

There’s far too much information at your fingertips to not have a stellar itinerary and show up at a shoddy hotel. Read reviews, connect with local businesses through social media, and when you’re there, ask the locals. Your partner will be awfully disappointed if you don’t put time and effort into planning and have a subpar time on your trip.

Make It a Surprise

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Nothing is more romantic than a surprise, especially a surprise trip. How much of a surprise is up to you, but consider a couple of options – a complete surprise or a partial surprise. If you opt for a complete surprise, kudos. This is the hardest to pull off and requires the most forethought. To pull off a complete surprise, you’ll have to pack for your partner, arrange for them to take time off work, book their transportation, and find an excuse to get them wherever you’re going. 

If you can manage all that – choosing their clothes, grabbing their necessary toiletries, and contacting their boss to confirm their PTO, all without them becoming wise to your plan – your partner will be awestruck in the best way, and totally impressed that you paid such close attention to detail. It’ll be a hard favor to repay, and one they’ll remember forever. 

A partial surprise is a bit easier, and it’s tons of fun. Tell your partner you’ve planned a trip. Drop hints about the location and give them a vague idea of the weather and activities so they can pack accordingly, but don’t give away the destination or the bulk of the schedule. When you arrive at the airport or get in the car to drive, tell your partner where you’re going. It’ll be ultra-romantic, and much easier to achieve. 

Choose a Time That Works for Both of You

Whether or not you plan a surprise trip, be mindful of the time you’re choosing. Check your partner’s schedule – is it a busy month at work, or do they have commitments scheduled they can’t break or move? Check the same for your schedule. Neither of you wants to be stressed while on your romantic getaway, and nothing is more stressful than knowing you’re missing something important back home. 

Choose a Romantic Destination

If you’re taking a romantic trip, your destination must be romantic. The destination is hugely important. It’ll set the tone, and if your partner is in the know about the locale ahead of time, it’ll get them all the more excited about a trip for just the two of you in a place known for romance. 

There are undeniably romantic locations throughout the world – London, Paris, the Maldives – but don’t discount some lesser-known spots that might not seem traditionally romantic. A long weekend curled up in a cabin overlooking the Swiss Alps? Dreamy. A coastal one-bedroom bungalow in a tiny town with nothing to do but each other? Totally hot. Just because it hasn’t been dubbed “the city of love” doesn’t mean it should be ignored. 

Consider what your partner finds romantic, and what they enjoy doing. If they’d rather frolic in the snow and shower together to warm up afterward, don’t take them to the tropics. But if they’d prefer sex on the beach, find a spot with private cabanas for rent. Romance is about preference, and showing your partner you’ve paid attention to all the little hints they’ve dropped about their dream vacation will get you very, very lucky. 

Take Luxe Transportation

Money doesn’t equal romance, but spending a little extra on transportation can do wonders for both of you. If you’re taking a road trip, hire a driver. The driver can stay nearby for the entire trip and transport you wherever, whenever you like. You won’t have to worry about finding an Uber late at night, navigating an unfamiliar city, or staying within the legal limit to return to your lodging safely. All the stress that accompanies driving will be gone, leaving you with nothing but time to talk, laugh, and enjoy each other’s company. 

If you’re flying commercial, fly first class. Having a first-class ticket will give you priority boarding, access to airline lounges, and more room on the plane. You’ll avoid bookending the trip with negative flying experiences by spending just a bit more on tickets.

For the ultimate luxury travel accommodations, fly private. You’ll be able to enjoy a cocktail or a glass of champagne on your flight, have privacy to chat about your excitement for the trip, and join the mile-high club. Flying private will give you more control over arrival and departure times, too, which you’ll both be thankful for. Start and finish your romantic getaway in the most fabulous way possible. 

Book a Suite

Note that suite here is an all-encompassing word meaning something big. A presidential suite, a honeymoon suite, a cabin, a villa, a condo, a mansion, a castle, an estate. Book something big and beautiful, something your partner will be thrilled to spend time at. 

For many trips, accommodations are not the most important purchase, especially when your schedule is packed. When the only activity you’ll be doing at your lodging is sleeping, something nice and comfortable will do. But when you’re planning a romantic getaway, something expansive and sexy will elevate the trip and is necessary since you’ll be spending time there doing lots more than sleeping. 

Don’t cheap out on lodging for a romantic trip. Splurge on something memorable. Something your partner will be begging you to take them back to. Something swanky that exudes romance. 

Let Others Do the Work

From the moment you leave your home to the moment you return, don’t let your partner do any work. Have someone else take care of it for them, or both of you if possible. Carry their luggage, serve them drinks, and take care of everything. Don’t let them lift a finger. 

If you’re driving yourself, be their chauffeur. If you’re staying at an Airbnb, hire a private chef, or go out for every meal. If you’re at a resort, see if an attendant is available for hire. Hire a private waiter for your cabana and bottle service when you’re out.

Make it obvious you want them to relax and enjoy themselves, not feel pressured to cook, fetch you drinks, or keep a tidy house while you’re on your romantic getaway. Let others do the work so you can focus on each other. 

Don’t Book Too Many Activities

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Activities are fun, and not many of us can spend an entire week posted up on a beach under a coconut tree, but don’t overwhelm yourselves with activities and lose time you can spend just the two of you. Consider a more relaxed approach, especially if your destination is a city. Choose one or two major activities per day, if that, and spend the rest of the time dawdling. You’re on vacation – it’s acceptable to dawdle. One day, visit a museum in the morning and return to your lodging for an afternoon delight. Another day, get a late lunch and relax until your moonlight private dinner cruise. 

If you’re at the beach, plan your activities by day. One day, rent a yacht and jet ski in the ocean, on another day visit the historic ruins and caves in a nearby town. Offset these all-day affairs with days where you’re totally relaxed, only moving your bodies to reapply sunscreen or…

Sleep In

You read that correctly, early risers. Your trainer isn’t joining your trip so you can make your 4:00 am workout, and you can’t do it via Zoom because of the time change. Don’t wake your partner by rustling the sheets to run on the beach before sunrise. Sleep in some. It doesn’t have to be long, but take advantage of having no responsibilities. Plus, what’s hotter than morning sex?

If you absolutely can’t stay in bed, let your partner sleep in and find a way to make their morning special. Brew a pot of coffee and bring it to them in bed. Cook breakfast and set a stunning tablescape on the balcony. Run to a nearby shop for a special gift or fresh flowers. Take your time in the morning, and don’t feel pressured to start your day early as you do at home. 

Plan More Surprises While You’re There

The surprises shouldn’t end when you begin your trip. Actually, there should be far more surprises when you arrive than beforehand. It might seem difficult to plan surprises, but it’s really not. It just takes a little planning.

Surprises don’t have to be grand. It’s a romantic getaway, not a milestone birthday party with your entire extended family. Give them hints here and there as to what you’re doing, then have something even more exciting when you arrive. 

If you’ve planned a candlelit dinner for two in a private space with music and rose petals, just tell them you’re going to dinner. If you’re going on a hot air balloon ride with a champagne toast, tell them you’re going to see a great view. Throw them off a bit, then surprise them with something totally romantic. 

Hire a Travel Agent

If planning is truly too stressful, even with all the resources available, or you simply don’t have the time, hire a travel agent. The internet is flooded with agents from all over, all just waiting for you to book a trip with them. Whether it’s someone local to you or local to your destination, contact someone and correspond so they know exactly what you envision for your trip. 

Find a bespoke travel agency for a super posh, super romantic trip. They’ll be able to book private excursions, set you up in beautiful lodging, and give you ideas for a trip you didn’t think possible. You’ll be blown away by their skills, as will your partner. It’ll make for an exceptional trip, and build credit with a company that can continue planning vacations for you and your partner for years to come. 

Spend, Spend, Spend

To make your time as romantic as possible, you’ve got to spend. Spend money on the little things to make the trip run more smoothly. Spend money on the big things to leave with unmatched stories and memories. A romantic getaway isn’t the time to worry about your budget. Show your partner all you care about is their happiness, and make your trip as perfect as possible. 

You can’t just spend money though, you’ve got to spend time with each other too. Be together. Be present. Put your devices away and don’t check work emails. Everything can be attended to when you return. 

Spend quality time in a romantic place with the one you love most. Be intentional and thoughtful and unplug from the rest of the world to have as special a trip as possible. Romance takes effort. Make it, and you’ll have an unforgettable getaway.

1. Sensei Lana’i

Secluded in magical Hawaii, Sensei Lana’i offers stunning scenery to heal you from the inside out. The views alone will have you awestruck, as will the gorgeous resort you’re staying at. Sensei Lana’i is full of wellness activities catered to your body, mind, and soul. You’ll be tempted to extend your stay after just one night at this exquisite resort. 

Sensei Lana’i is focused on all parts of wellness, including physical health. The exercises will meet you where you’re at, so nothing is too intensive. And if you’d rather stroll the property, there’s plenty of space for you to walk around, ground to the earth, and reconnect with nature. 

To work on your nutrition, culinary masters are available to create dishes you’ll love, and ones that’ll fit your exact dietary needs. The food will fuel your body in the most sublime way, making you feel your best and flush toxins out in the safest way. Plus, all ingredients are local, so everything will be served at peak freshness. 

While staying at Sensei Lana’i, you’ll have plenty of time to sleep so you can recharge and recalibrate, as well as time to rest and meditate, getting back in touch with your mind. If you’re unsure how to, there are experts to guide you through your journey, ensuring it meets your needs and sends you home feeling rejuvenated.

2. Miraval Resorts and Spa

Set in three stunning locations throughout the United States, anyone can access Miraval for a beautiful wellness stay, healing you spiritually. At Miraval, you’ll experience a private and posh retreat curated by wellness experts who have the utmost respect and care for your wellbeing. You’ll go on a journey while you’re there, leading you to total wellness physically, emotionally, and mentally. 

Miraval has everything a resort could need to create the perfect atmosphere for spiritual bliss. Its grounds, rooms, and views are the height of luxurious healing, and every space lends itself to calm and serenity. 

Miraval is known for its first-class spa. It uses only the most natural ingredients to restore homeostasis in your body and bring you total relaxation, releasing all stress and bringing a genuine sense of calm. Nothing harsh, toxic, or abrasive will touch your body, so as you release toxins, nothing new will replace them. Only good energy and positive vibes. 

3. Inns of Aurora

Located in New York, this award-winning retreat is committed to natural, organic healing and wellness treatments, and is unlike any other wellness resort in the United States. If it can’t be found in nature, it doesn’t exist here. At the Inns of Aurora, you’ll feel as though you were transported to the past, but you’ll still have all the modern amenities you love and need. 

At the Inns of Aurora, you can enjoy multiple restaurants – one where food is farm-to-table, and another where organic coffee is served along with comfort food, but without the harmful ingredients. No matter what you’re craving, you’ll be able to find something satisfying and oh-so-healthy.

Private residences are available at the Inns of Aurora, so you feel totally calm and at home. All amenities you could possibly imagine at your fingertips, and housekeeping is available. Each residence is equipped with a fully operational kitchen so you can cook if you’d like, but world-class chefs are available too, and can show you how to cook an unbelievably tasty meal. You’ll be able to go home with new and impressive skills to elevate your home cooking game. 

During your entire stay, you’ll experience a totally rustic setting. From the views of the grounds to the interior of the homes, the Inns of Aurora is an immersive experience yielding highly healing results. 

4. Madeline Hotel & Residences

Tucked away in snowy Colorado and surrounded by the Rocky Mountains, Madeline Hotel & Residences is everything you could want out of a wellness resort. It has all the regular aspects of a luxury wellness retreat, as well as an added bonus of activities that you can’t find anywhere else due to its climate, and not just during the snowy months. 

To really get you to your peak self, a full-service spa and salon are available to help you look as good as you feel. When you look good, you feel good, and Madeline knows this. Their spa has a variety of massages to choose from, all with different healing properties. No matter what you’re feeling on the inside, a Madeline massage can address it from the outside. 

The spa also has different rituals, like CBD and gemstone, that use materials straight from the earth to relax, energize, or exfoliate your body – whatever you’re after, they can make it happen. There are also treatments available specific to your bodily needs, like flexibility and joint ease. You’ll leave the spa feeling like a brand new person. 

After the spa, you’ll be up for adventures like fly fishing and hiking, weather permitting, of course. And if you want to extend your stay in Colorado, Madelin also has a totally fully functioning hotel apart from the wellness resort, which is perfect for a vacation. 

5. We Care

Just by reading the name of this wellness retreat, you know you’re in for some major relaxation and healing. A decades-long program made specifically for those looking to live the healthiest life possible, We Care is a holistic, luxury restoration.

We Care provides a private suite for every guest, and each one has a breathtaking, restorative view of the desert. The resort is dedicated to privacy, keeping the theme at their pool and poolside cabanas. We Care is also into juices, keeping you hydrated and providing you with the nutrition you’ve been lacking. 

While at We Care, you’ll have access to dozens of amazing courses designed to encourage mental wellness, led by professionals who care about your health and can help you address whatever issues you’ve been harboring to release emotional stress. There’s a reason We Care has been in business for so long – they provide an unmatched experience for all guests, leaving them feeling far better when they leave than when they arrived. 

6. Pritkin Longevity Center

At Pritkin, there are physicians available to help diagnose and heal whatever calamities you have – physical, mental, emotional, the Pritkin doctors can help you address it all. There’s more healing available than you thought possible while here.

Pritkin has tons of exercise classes for everyone and anyone, ensuring all guests can tend to their physical fitness. With lifestyle experts and nutritionists available to ensure you leave on just as healthy a path as you entered, you’ll leave feeling confident you can maintain your newfound healthy lifestyle. 

To feed your brain, Pritkin offers seminars and lectures to share the latest information on health from leading physicians. They also offer state-of-the-art cooking classes, and provide daily breakfasts, lunches, snacks, and elegant dinners, all without any effort from you.

7. Lake Austin Spa Resort

Water is known for its healing powers, which is exactly why you want to spend your time relaxing and healing at Lake Austin Spa Resort. With this luxurious setting, you won’t have any choice but to heal. Lake Austin Spa Resort is a rustic, natural retreat, allowing you to immerse yourself in nature, which is the quickest way to wellness. 

Lake Austin Spa Resort boasts a beautiful spa with treatments that absolve you of all issues, getting deep into both your body and soul. You’ll feel totally relaxed, not realizing it was possible to feel so good. And after your luxurious spa treatment, you can enjoy a meal made of local, fresh ingredients – food that makes you feel as good as it tastes. It’s rare to find a place that hosts such an array of amenities that are the epitome of health and wellness. 

Since Lake Austin Spa Resort sits on a lake, there are plenty of water sports available for exercise, and water sports are a great way to let go of inhibitions and everyday stressors. If you’ve never tried before, be aware that water sports are not easy, but with some practice, you can get the hang of it, adding another skill to take home with you later. 

Lake Austin Spa Resort is all about a rounded approach to wellness, hitting all aspects of health. With packages available for up to 30 days, you can choose what you need for the ultimate healing getaway in a spot that couldn’t be nicer. And if you stay for 30 days, you’ll have plenty of time to practice those water sports. 

8. Golden Door

Located north of San Diego, California, Golden Door is a world-class wellness retreat, taking luxury to a new level. Each guest is given a private room with a daily massage – where do we sign up?

Not only do you get all those amazing amenities, Golden Door outfits you with a personal trainer, and offers speaker sessions and mindfulness sessions, so your health will be addressed from every aspect, even your skin. A skin analysis is available, as are recommendations by professionals on ways to improve your complexion while you’re there and when you leave. 

Golden Door gives you a personalized meal plan, a cooking class, and other wellness recommendations to take with you beyond their property. And with 600 acres of land on the resort, multiple hiking trails, gardens, and perfectly manicured grounds that you won’t believe unless you see it with your own eyes, you’ll be wondering why it took so long for you to book a stay. 

This luxury resort provides you with ample products while you’re there, and all are available online so you can continue using what you discovered and loved while at your stay. You’ll never have to be without that hydrating moisturizer again thanks to Golden Door.

9. Hilton Head Health

For many years, weight loss retreats were considered taboo, but Hilton Head Health has made that notion a thing of the past. This wellness resort promotes healthy living, and offers weight-loss courses for those who want it. 

Catered to your weight loss goals, Hilton Head Health offers different paths according to your fitness needs. If you’re not interested in losing weight, the resort also offers other ways to improve your health. No matter what you choose, Hilton Head Health treats you to holistic wellness plans that work to establish a healthy lifestyle and commitment to wellness beyond your stay. 

10. Amangiri

In the stunning landscape of Utah, Amangiri is the perfect luxury wellness retreat. It gives you lodging options for your stay, and offers a boutique with ready-to-wear fashionable pieces to keep you comfortable and stylish while at your stay. If you forgot to pack something, hit up the boutique. If you packed everything you need, hit up the boutique. 

You can also participate in extreme sports like the Cave Peak Stairway. This lets you be adventurous and brave, and see stunning, unparalleled views of the sky, reminding you how big the world is in the best way possible. If you’d like, a private jet charter or private yacht can pick you up and bring you to Amangiri, and take you home when your stay is over. If that’s not luxury, we don’t know what is.

With this guide, you’ll be able to navigate the nightlife in London like a pro, acting as a travel guide for all your comrades, showing them the best places London has to offer. No matter what type of a night you’re after, we’ve got you covered.

1. Luxx Club

The Luxx Club is a hit nightclub with multiple private rooms available to book, each with its own vibe to instantly set the mood. Whether you’re after something moody and sexy for an intimate night, or something open and lively for a get-together with a large group of friends, the Luxx Club has you covered. Plus, each room is temperature-controlled to keep you at peak comfort, so you can wear whatever you like without worrying about freezing or sweating your ass off. 

If you’re totally into live music, the Luxx Club is the place to be. With both booth seating and a dance floor, Luxx Club is a happy medium between conversational and entertaining, making it possible to have a heart-to-heart with friends, but just as easy to find someone to take home. The first-class DJ will elevate the vibe, and have everyone in a sublime mood. 

The Luxx Club is also the perfect venue for holding private, luxury events. The private rooms are easy to book online, and your guests will be impressed by the venue. Plus, with their amazing selection of champagne, wine, and top-shelf liquor, you won’t have to supply the alcohol. 

If you’re looking for a truly unique night, be on the lookout for the Luxx Club’s theme nights. With different styles of music playing throughout the evening, you’ll be thrilled you came. 

2. Artesian

Looking for an elevated experience at a low-key yet elegant venue? Look no further than Artesian. This is literally one of the world’s best bars, and its cocktails are unmatched, but they’ll be fighting with the interior for your attention.

You’ll be charmed by the decor and in serious appreciation of the attention to detail and commitment to the overall vibe. No guest leaves Artesian disappointed, as it’s a five-star experience from the second you enter until the moment you leave.

Meet an old friend at Artesian for a night of catching up, or pop in after dinner for a drink or two to extend a really good first date. Or, if you’re feeling spontaneous, go alone and meet someone there. Artesian attracts interesting people, and there will undoubtedly be someone there ready to strike up a conversation. Given its world-class reputation, people from all walks of life will be ordering drinks at Artesian, giving you plenty of options for someone to talk to. It’ll be a memorable conversation and an even more memorable night. 

3. The Nickel Bar at The Ned

For an authentic American experience without actually being in America, try The Nickel Bar at The Ned. The Ned is a five-star hotel with stunning decor that lends to the American vibe but in the classiest way possible. The Nickel Bar serves classic American drinks at all hours of the day, but it truly comes alive at night. Their menu is divine, and it’s the perfect place to spend an evening. 

The Nickel Bar also boasts a piano on a circular stage, and live music is played often, including New Music Mondays. If you’d rather spend an evening out at the beginning of the week than the end, hit up The Nickel Bar on Monday to discover new sounds. 

When you’re not watching the musicians, the emerald green marble and black and white checkered floors will catch your eye. The interior decorator did a fabulous job, and you’ll be tempted to spend the entire night taking photos as inspo for your next home improvement project. If you don’t want to spend your night snapping photos, at least pull your phone out for one quick picture. A photo at The Nickel Bar will instantly improve your Instagram feed, and give your followers major FOMO. 

4. Beaufort Bar at The Savoy Hotel

The Savoy Hotel is one of London’s most exquisite places to stay. Having once employed Guccio Gucci, founder of the eponymous and iconic fashion house Gucci, The Savoy Hotel collaborated with the designer to up the elegance at The Savoy Hotel (as if it wasn’t already elegant AF), making it a truly remarkable place to lay your head at night. But The Savoy Hotel’s excellence doesn’t end there – it also has a wonderful nightlife spot in Beaufort Bar.

A moody, sensual, eye-catching locale, Beaufort Bar exudes mystery and class, making you feel nothing but intrigued and exhilarated all at once upon entry. Its dark decor creates the perfect environment for an upscale night out, and it’ll have you feeling some type of way when you leave. Before you go, though, enjoy a glass of their highly-talked-about spirits. As an added bonus, Beaufort Bar is working to make its drinks as sustainable as possible.

5. Crazy Coqs at Brasserie Zedel

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We see London, and we see France at Crazy Coqs at Brasserie Zedel. This one-of-a-kind London entertainment spot brings the Moulin Rouge across the English Channel, employing just as much vim and vigor as the original location. Its interior will have you entranced from the moment you step in, and the performances will keep your attention the entire night. It’s the perfect place for a night with friends or a date. Hell, you could go there alone and you’d still be entertained. 

Crazy Coqs offers world-class entertainment. Its French-themed theater and cabaret are undeniably sexy, and there’s comedy and magic on display for those interested, truly offering something for everyone. There’s no way you’ll leave Crazy Coqs disappointed. 

Crazy Coqs keeps guests hydrated, or dehydrated rather, with their spectacular choice of wine, champagne, and cocktails, and this unbelievable venue can be made even more special by booking a private show, ensuring a truly magical night. Crazy Coqs is the absolute best place to be for a night unlike any other in London, as you’ll be transported to an entirely different world inside, leaving you to wonder if you dreamt your time there. 

6. Gigi’s Hoxton

One of the hottest venues in London, Gigi’s Hoxton can take you from day to night. This premiere spot is open for long hours, making it easy to spend the entire day at Gigi’s. The atmosphere is whimsical and fun and has pops of art all over. It’s versatile and sexy and makes for the perfect evening. 

One of the best parts of spending your night at Gigi’s? There are different floors with different vibes, making it easy to find something you’re in the mood for, and easy to switch up in the middle of the night if you need a change of scenery. Whether you’re there for a lowkey evening or a night of endless partying, Gigi’s is the place to be. 

Gigi’s really has it all. Live DJs with themed music nights, multiple levels, and bar food is available if you’re hungry. Hoping to spend 12 hours at Gigi’s? No problem. You won’t go hungry, and you won’t be bored. From the interior to the clientele, there’s no shortage of things to look at. Even if you’re by yourself, you’ll be highly entertained, trust us. It’s the ultimate spot for a night out in London. 

7. The Mayfair Bar

If you’re after an exquisite bar with exceptional and unique cocktails, stop at The Mayfair Bar. Its stunning modern and glamorous decor will have you reeling, rifling through your pockets to find your phone to snap a photo. The second you see the booths, you’ll want to take a seat, even if you’ve just been sitting for hours. Their unique shape is intriguing and inviting, leading you in with utmost excitement. More than you’ve ever had for a booth, that’s certain. 

The Mayfair Bar has a menu you won’t believe. Using Hendrick’s gin, the bartenders stir up awe-inspiring concoctions, and the chef serves food to pair perfectly. If you’re awake in time after your mind-blowing night at The Mayfair Bar, return in the morning for brunch, as the menu is seasonal and just as superlative as the fare you dined on at night. 

Not only can you return the next morning, but you can also book The Mayfair Bar for a private event, making sure you and your guests have a refined night at one of London’s best bars. All of this can be enjoyed while listening to a world-class DJ, who’s spinning the perfect playlist to set the mood. What more can you ask for? 

8. Kadie’s Club

For an epic night spent partying, visit Kadie’s Club. A popular venue for some of the most famous people in the world like Idris Elba and Dua Lipa, who have regularly been spotted at Kadie’s. It’s a London staple, and one of the most exciting places in town. For a night you’ll never forget, spend it at this exceptional nightclub, where cheeky interior meets perfect party vibes. 

The first hour of the night, Kadie’s is open for drinks, and then it transforms into one of London’s best nightclubs that celebrates the best DJs the city has to offer. You’ll have to spend the next day nursing your tonsils from downing all the delicious drinks and singing all the contagious music at the top of your lungs alongside your best friends. 

Note that part of the club is members only, but also note that this ups its exclusivity, making it all the more desirable to visit. And if you can become a member of Kadie’s Club, you’re in for night upon memorable night at this stellar venue, collecting legions of stories to regale your friends with. 

There’s no dress code required to enter Kadie’s, but they do suggest you dress as you would for a major event, yielding fashionable nights out. And you should probably listen to that suggestion, as a night at Kadie’s is a major event. You’ll want to look the part. 

9. Cirque Le Soir

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Not to be confused with Cirque du Soleil, Cirque Le Soir is a members-only club that you absolutely want to become a member of. To do so, reserve a table for the night, and let yourself be entertained by the people, the staff, and the club itself. There’s no other place in London you want to gain access to than Cirque Le Soir because this club is all about the environment. 

From the interior decor to the music, to the dress code, this place exudes vibes. There’s no other way to describe it – you’ve just got to experience it. While you’re there, take advantage of the bottle service. Treat yourself to a boujee night and revel in the fact that you’re at one of the best nightclubs in the entire world. 

10. Connaught Bar

Another bar located inside a hotel, Connaught Bar is nestled in The Connaught, one of London’s finest hotels. This luxurious hotel has everything a hotel could possibly have, giving guests no reason to leave. At the heart of its luxury is Connaught Bar, recently crowned the world’s best bar for the second year running. 

Connaught Bar is a master class in how bars should be. Its impeccable interior is matched by its fine drinks and menu, putting fresh, modern twists on classic cocktails. Connaught Bar’s bartenders are some of the best in the business, putting patrons first with their favorable service. 

From its upscale ambiance to its tasty tipples, Connaught Bar is the whole package. No place in London, or the world, is quite like this venue. You’ll be delighted you came and sad to go, planning your return before you pay your tab.

Plan Ahead

Being unprepared is a surefire way to cause yourself stress. We’re not suggesting creating a minute-by-minute schedule to follow. This is Christmas, not the Marines. But planning ahead will help to manage stress and take stressful thoughts out of the actual day, leaving you no choice but to enjoy yourself.  

There are dozens of Christmas details to plan, and it’s important to consider the ones that could cause the most stress. If you’re hosting this year, plan your meal at least a week in advance, and buy the food as soon as you have your menu. Prepare any side dishes or desserts ahead of time, and call your grandma if you’re not sure which ones those are. 

It’s a good idea to buy your gifts in advance as well. At the very least, have an idea of what you’d like to buy, and get to the store or create a wish list. Make sure your gifts are purchased before the holiday festivities begin, so you can enjoy gift giving and avoid getting stuck with the gifts no one else wanted to buy. 

Know where you’re going and when on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. If your holiday looks a little more like Four Christmases than A Christmas Story, and you’ll be traveling from house to house, plan when you’ll arrive and when you’ll leave, and know what you’re expected to bring. Sort your gifts and food by location when packing your car, so you’re not sifting through your trunk in every driveway missing out more and more of the festivities. Make notes if you have to. The preparation might be tedious, but it’ll save you stress on the big day. 

Make Time for Your Favorite Traditions

Part of the stress of Christmas is seeing to obligations we don’t enjoy. We all have to exchange gifts with a cousin we don’t like, and no family gathering is complete without an in-law who starts a fight. Some of these occurrences are no longer a matter of if, but when, and we have to endure. To relieve some of the pain, indulge in at least one of your favorite traditions to bring joy to Christmas.

Pour yourself a cup of cocoa and turn on your favorite movie. Take a picture of you and your siblings in matching pajamas by the tree. Whatever it is that makes you happy and nostalgic, do it. It’ll give you something to look forward to and take your mind off the prior or impending stress.

If you don’t have a favorite tradition, start one. Find something to make your day merry and bright. 

Set Boundaries

Speaking of families, many of us find at least some members to be a major source of stress. Some relatives are tolerable, but others are truly bad for our mental health, causing anxiety beyond the point of stress. There isn’t enough spiked eggnog in the world to put up with some people, and if that’s the case, set boundaries to avoid an unhealthy situation. 

Boundaries look different for everyone. What’s most important is that you’re comfortable. Your boundary might be greeting your stress-inducing relative and saying nothing more to them the entire day. Your boundary might be attending the get-together for an hour then celebrating with friends. Your boundary might even be foregoing the Christmas reunion altogether. You’ve got to do what’s best for you, and create beneficial boundaries to remain calm and happy on the holiday.

Do Something Kind

This time of year is depressing for many, and one way to relieve stress and feel good about yourself is by doing something kind for another person. Volunteer organizations are constantly looking for help during the holiday season, and there’s bound to be something you enjoy doing that’ll help someone else, even if it’s just for the evening. 

Volunteer with the Salvation Army and collect donations. Purchase Christmas gifts for a family that can’t afford them. Serve a meal at a homeless shelter. Buy someone’s coffee at Starbucks. There are countless ways to spread holiday cheer, and they’ll all bring you just as much joy as the people you’re helping. 

Take a Trip

Christmas doesn’t have to be spent at home, and gifts don’t have to be tangible items. If Christmas is really too stressful to handle with the relatives, or you just want to get away, book a trip over the holidays. It can be a quick three-day getaway to a cabin in the snow or a ten-day luxury vacation in the tropics. There’s no bad way to travel, and it can be a huge dopamine burst. 

Don’t feel pressured to stay put over Christmas if you’re going to be miserable. No one else will want to be around you either. Splurge on an adventure of a lifetime, or take a modest road trip just to get a change of space. Whether you booked it months in advance or are buying your plane ticket at the airport, taking a trip will reduce stress and make for a supremely enjoyable Christmas holiday. 

Outsource What You Don’t Enjoy

Throughout the year, if you don’t enjoy a task, you find a way out, right? Well, most of us do. Hate cleaning? Hire a cleaning service. Not in the mood to cook? Order takeout. When the holidays roll around, we wrongly convince ourselves we have to do everything on our own, causing tons of stress. It’s impossible to do everything alone – there’s simply too much to do around the holidays. 

If there’s a holiday task you’re not keen on completing yourself, find someone else to do it. The world is teeming with people making money in ways you never thought possible, so use it to your advantage. Hire someone to decorate, wrap packages, even shop if you hate lines and crowds. Someone somewhere will do anything for money, including everything around the holidays you hate to do yourself. You just have to find them. 

Visit Your Loved Ones

In need of a major pick-me-up? Spend your Christmas visiting those you love most. This can be family, friends, your partner – anyone really. Visit them before the holiday, on it, or after it.

Spend part of your visit doing your favorite holiday activity together. Visit the lights downtown, grab a drink at a Christmas bar, or exchange gifts. If you’re visiting a lover, there’s one activity in particular that will really reduce stress (you know what we’re talking about.) Spend some quality time together to truly enjoy the season. 

Buy Yourself a Gift

Christmas is the time of giving, so don’t forget to treat yourself too. If you’re certain no one is buying you the gift at the top of your list, heck, even if someone is, get yourself something special this Christmas. Take yourself shopping for that item you’ve had your eye on all year, or use your end-of-year bonus as a spending limit and browse through The Christmas Book at Neiman Marcus for an ultra-luxe, totally exclusive holiday splurge. 

Maybe it’s the Rolex you’ve seen in the window a dozen times and can’t stop picturing on your wrist. Maybe it’s a down payment on the Lambo you’ve dreamed of since you were a kid. Whatever the item may be, gift yourself. Have someone wrap it or spice it up with a bow to make it extra festive and special. Open it up and enjoy. You deserve it!

If You’re Hosting, Get Help

Not all of us are so lucky as to attend a Christmas gathering we can easily skip or finally employ the Irish exit we’ve been perfecting all holiday season. Some of us are destined to be Clark Griswold, hosting our extended families on both sides for a chaotic, stressful day – sometimes days. If you’re one of the men saddled with hosting duties, fear not. There are ways to make it easier.

Get help. Just as you outsourced your decorating and shopping, have others help with hosting duties. If you’re not much of a cook, tell your guests ahead of time you’ll be hosting a potluck dinner. Assign everyone a dish so you’re not stuck gorging yourself on desserts and that family member who just went keto isn’t complaining the entire night about their hunger pains. Or, if you’re feeling risky, tell everyone to bring their favorite holiday dish and see what you get. 

If asking guests to bring food isn’t your style, order a meal. Plenty of restaurants, catering companies, and grocery stores have meals available for pickup before the holiday, making food preparation simple. All you have to do is cook according to the instructions – no preparation required. Even if you do enjoy cooking, this is an easy way to reduce stress and allow you to spend time with your guests.

Kindly ask guests to clean up after themselves, most will naturally want to help you clear the table, but if they don’t, ask them for a helping hand, it’s only fair. Cooking is only part of a host’s duties, and it’s often the more enjoyable part. Kindly ask guests to clear their own plate, and if you aren’t dining on hand wash-only china, have them place their plate and silverware in the dishwasher. This takes a load off you, and isn’t any trouble for your guests, especially if you’re hosting a large group. 

Another option that many people find useful is hosting their Christmas celebration at a neutral location, like a hotel or a holiday home. This is especially helpful if you have a large group and no one’s home can accommodate that many people. Or if you’d simply rather not have dozens of people in your home. Choose a location and have everyone pitch in with planning and cleaning. Many hands make light work, and light work makes for a stress-free Christmas. 

Rest

Rest is vital to remaining stress-free, and it’s often overlooked and cast aside due to other demands. Don’t discount its importance this holiday season, and take time to rejuvenate. If it isn’t possible before the big day, schedule some time after Christmas to relax and take a break. 

Remember that rest isn’t just sleeping. Although that’s important, it’s also important to take time off work, visit a spa, spend the night curled up on the couch, or decompress on an island somewhere. Whatever your preferred form of relaxation maybe, find a way to do it and prepare for the new year ahead. 

Encourage those around you to rest too. Your friends, family, coworkers, and partners need it just as much as you. Take a trip together, give each other gift cards for massages, celebrate the holiday at a later date to give each other space to enjoy the day, or go out to eat on Christmas Day so no one has to cook. This year, avoid stress with plenty of rest. 

Stick To Your Routines and Maintain Self Care

With the chaos of Christmas, it’s easy to skip parts of your routine that reduce stress on a daily basis. You might think you don’t have time for a workout, and a festive cocktail probably sounds more appealing than a gallon of water, but maintaining your routines will keep your stress level low, so stick to them as much as possible. 

Don’t drive yourself crazy by sticking to them and cause more stress, though. Find balance. Eat dessert. Drink a glass of wine. Stay up past midnight reminiscing with family about Christmases past. But on December 26, hop back on your Peloton and chug some water. You’ll be glad you did.

Being a good friend is tricky because all of your friends will have a different definition of a “good friend.” One of your friends might think you’re already the best friend that they could have, while another might think you need to work on a few things. But this isn’t your fault, they’re just looking for different things in a friendship.

To help you maintain your most coveted friendships, we’ve gathered tips to help even the most antisocial men stay in good standing with all of their comrades, even during a global pandemic. So, let’s get into what you came here to do.

Communicate

We’ve established that a friendship is like any other relationship, and relationships require communication. It’s important for friends to share major life updates that you’re excited about like getting a promotion, a new romantic relationship, or buying a house, but it’s equally important to communicate the less exciting news. Because let’s be real, as much as we wished that we did, not everyone has life-changing news to share every day. Maintaining a good friendship requires communication from both parties about the big and little things – the ups and the down.

To be a good friend, you can’t just tell your pal about all the happenings in your life, you’ve got to listen to him, and celebrate his wins as much as you would your own. Take him out for a celebratory dinner or a drink. Show him you’re excited about his success – not threatened by it. 

Make sure to communicate your needs to each other. Whether it’s a guy’s night out after a breakup or some space to clear your head, tell your friend where you’re at and what you need. If your friend communicates his needs, return the favor and listen. If he’s asking for a guy’s night out, show up. If he asks for space, give it. This communication will create trust and strengthen your bond.

Spend Time Together

This is an obvious one, but it’s not always put to practice. Close friendships require time spent together. It’s fun to hang out and do nothing (with the right person who isn’t a total snooze fest, obviously,) but sometimes it’s nice to have an activity to do, especially if it’s the beginning of your friendship.

Grab dinner together. This is a classic idea for an outing, and for good reason. Everyone’s got to eat, so it might as well be enjoyable. You can visit the same restaurant or try something new each time. Spend one night having a progressive dinner, where you eat each course at a different spot, like a pub crawl with food, or take turns choosing where you eat. When you have a fun activity planned, it’ll make getting together much more appealing and more likely to be followed through with even when life gets hectic as you were so looking forward to it all week.

If they’re not a foodie (are you sure you want to be this guy’s friend?) or you’ve exhausted the dinner option, come up with a bunch of activities that you’d like to do together, like a bucket list, and tick them off as you go along. This will give you both the motivation to plan frequent get-togethers, because who doesn’t love ticking off a to-do list?

If your friendship is long-distance, you should still find reasons to meet up. Whether you’re reuniting in a city halfway between you both for a night, or you’re visiting each other in your hometowns for the weekend, find a time that works for both of you, and stick to it. Since these types of meet-ups usually need more than a week to plan, canceling looks worse as you’ve had plenty of notice to figure out your schedule ahead of time.  

Remember, friendship is mutual. It requires effort. If you want to hang out with your friend, ask him to hang out. If your friend invites you, make the effort to show up. If you stop showing up, he’ll stop asking. Both of you need to continue to make suggestions in order to maintain a good friendship. 

Check-In On Him

If you want to have a friend, you have to be a friend, and friends check in on each other. It’s a small gesture, but it shows him he was on your mind, and you care about his wellbeing. Find a genuine way to reach out, and check in regularly. 

You can easily check in on your friend through a text message. In many ways, texting has made communication less meaningful, since you can C&P a text to pretty much anyone, but when done right, it can be an easy way to show your friend you care.

Ask him how he is and how he’s getting on with something he recently told you. Tell him to have a good day at work. Try to get something personal in there that could only be sent to him with the first text you reach out with. Something so simple such as “I hope the new job is going well! Let’s catch up over beers next Friday? I know a place you’ll enjoy” can instantly brighten your friend’s day. 

Technology makes it easy to be a good friend – you just have to utilize it. If your friend prefers to talk on the phone, give him a call. Ask him what he’s been up to lately – find out what shows he’s been bingeing, new restaurants he’s tried, how his family has been. Make sure everything is right in his world, and if it’s not, listen to him vent or suggest ways he can make a change. Be supportive and actually prove that you’re there for him. Many people say “let me know if there’s anything I can do,” then when the time comes for them to step up, all they have is excuses.

Think about how you’d like him to support you through a crisis, is it through thoughtful texts, phone calls, in-person meet-ups? Would you prefer for them to listen and give advice or just listen? This comes back to communication and understanding and delivering love in each other’s style.

It’s especially important to check in on your friend when you know he’s going through a hard time. Men are just as susceptible to mental health issues as women, in fact, many studies have shown that they suffer even more because it’s not talked about as much – let this be your motivation to keep checking in. Let your friend know it’s fine not to be fine, and that you’re there to help any way you can.

Be There for Important Events

When your friend has a major life event that he’d like you to attend, do everything you can to be there. He’s hit a huge milestone and he wants to share the memory with you (which is super flattering btw.)

If you’ve been the best friend that you can possibly be in the lead-up, he’ll also see you as part of the accomplishment. If he got a job promotion and you were the one to keep pushing him to work harder, kept him company whilst working late nights, or suggested ideas from a fresh perspective, he’ll want to thank you for helping him out. Showing up is the best way to acknowledge his appreciation whilst showing your support.

If he asks you to be a groomsman at his wedding, buy a tux. If his partner is throwing a surprise birthday party, come with a gift in hand. If he’s trying to pull off an elaborate engagement and wants his friends’ assistance, help him. Major life events are important, and they’re usually tons of fun. Show your loyalty and commitment to your friendship by being there when he asks. 

Be Honest

Honesty is one of the hallmarks of a great relationship, and it’s vital to a strong friendship. Be honest when you’re forming a friendship, and stay honest as it progresses. If you can’t be honest with your friends without the fear of losing them, then it’s probably time to find some new friends.

If they ask for your opinion on something, tell the truth. They clearly value your opinion if they came to you asking for it. Just make sure that you deliver it respectfully, there’s a difference between being honest and being rude.

Be honest about what you like and dislike. Don’t try to force a bond – connect on things you’re actually interested in. Who wants to pretend to be someone they aren’t? A friendship based on pretending to like the same things will slowly and surely fade. Instead, invest that time into others you don’t have to fake it with.

If you lie to your friend, even once, you risk losing their trust as they’ll question whether that really was the first time you lied to them. A good friend would never lie, even if it means upsetting them with the truth. They’ll eventually get over it, but there’s no telling whether they’ll get over a lie, so it’s simply just not worth the risk if you value them as a friend.

A friends with benefits relationship mainly focuses on hookups. Sex is the main objective – not intimacy. In a situationship, it’s more than just sex. There’s connection, conversation, and real feelings involved – but there’s also ambiguity and a missing label, which can leave you feeling confused, to say the least.

If you’ve yet to define your relationship and are stuck in the emotional limbo that is a situationship, we’re here to help. Below, we’ve deep-dived into seven ways you can turn your situationship into a relationship. And if you’re still on the fence about whether your current hookup is considered a situationship, we’ve got that covered too.

Are You in a Situationship? 4 Reasons Why You Might Be

All relationships are complicated. They come with their own sets of rules, boundaries, codes, and therapist-approved dos and don’ts. So, knowing what stage your relationship is in (if you can even call it that), well, that’s tricky too. If you’re wondering whether or not you’re in a situationship, check out the 4 tell-tale signs below.

1. You’re Not a Part of Their Life

While it’s not always great to compare your situation with others, at certain moments, it can help give you some clarity in the murky waters that are a situationship. Most couples you know and love are constantly together doing “couple” things – whether they live together, go on frequent dates, hang out with friends together, spend time with each other’s families, you name it!

So, if you’re not really a part of their life in those real-life, intimate moments, it could be a sign that it’s not as deep of a relationship as you think.

2. Real Dates Are Not Part of the equation

Speaking of dates, do you go on them? Dating is a huge part of a budding relationship. They offer you the chance to make your relationship more public, learn about the other person, and have fun together that’s outside of the bedroom. If the person you’re with isn’t wanting to make the relationship more public by going on actual dates, it could be for a reason.

3. There’s No Talk of the Future

People get into relationships for the long haul with hopes of having a future. It doesn’t have to be intense discussions of marriage, but even small things like talking about plans for the summer or going on a trip together in the spring can give you some clues as to whether or not that person is considering you in their future plans.

4. Things Are Inconsistent

If things are often one-sided or you go weeks without seeing each other for no apparent reason, it’s safe to say that the lack of consistency is a bright red flag you’re in a situationship. If someone is interested in having a full-blown relationship with you, they won’t be MIA.

7 Ways To Turn Your Situationship Into a Relationship

Situationships can be fun for a while, and they can perfectly fit in with specific life changes or circumstances. But it’s also perfectly acceptable for you to feel like you’re ready for that label and that it’s time to turn your situationship into a relationship. And the good news is that it’s totally possible! Situationships have the potential to turn into beautiful relationships, sometimes they just need a gentle push in the right direction.

1. See Each Other More Often

If inconsistency is part of the situationship, make consistency a part of your soon-to-be relationship. This is especially true for those who text or DM more than they see each other in person (which happens to be another red flag that you’re in a situationship). The act of getting physically closer to each other by spending more time together at home or on fun dates will strengthen your connection and make it that much easier for something more serious to blossom.

Not only is this a good way to see the other person on a more regular basis and show them that you’re willing to put the time and effort into having a relationship, but it also allows you to step back from the “talking” stage. While texting can be fun and flirtatious, it can also hold you back. It’s easy to fall into a texting routine of cute, lovey messages with nothing physical backing it up, so don’t form connections over the phone that may appear stronger than they actually are. And the only real way to test a relationship’s strength is by seeing each other more in person.

2. Manifest “Real” Couple Dates

People who believe in manifestation say that the best way to bring something you want into your life is to act as if you already have it. So why can’t that same logic apply to turning your situationship into a relationship?

Instead of the more awkward, “still getting to know each other” dates you might be going on, try turning those casual get-togethers into something more intimate and meaningful. Take this as your chance to see what it would be like to really date this person by grabbing something to eat in daylight or sharing a bottle of wine and good conversation instead of just going to the movies.

3. Keep It Exclusive

Are they still seeing other people? Are you? If your situationship isn’t completely exclusive yet, don’t panic. Not all hope is lost. But if you’re ready to transition your situationship into a relationship, then keeping things exclusive is a great place to start.

If you know that isn’t fully exclusive yet, have an open conversation with them and see if they’re interested in only seeing you. If they are, congratulations! You’re one step close to an actual relationship. If they’re not, you need to check in with yourself and see whether this situationship is worth continuing.

4. Speak Up

Arguably the scariest thing to do when it comes to turning your situationship into a relationship, but it’s also the most necessary. If you guys haven’t had the DTR (defining the relationship) talk, it’s time to speak up and get things moving.

When you’ve decided that you’re ready to move the relationship forward, let them know in an open and honest conversation. Be transparent about where your head has been at and where you would like things to go, and give them the space to come into the conversation from their end.

5. Get Them Involved With Your Life

Okay, so you’ve done the hard part and spoke your truth. But now it’s time to put your money where your mouth is and show them what it’s like to be in a relationship with you. Take them on dates, have them meet your friends or family, show them your work life, go on a trip. The goal is to get them more involved with your life and turn the situationship into a real relationship.

6. Practice Patience

Nothing happens overnight. So even when you make great progress towards becoming an official couple through intimate, transparent conversations, you’re likely not going to wake up and be transformed into the perfect couple the following day.

Relationships take time to grow and evolve, so practice patience when turning your situationship into a relationship. To keep things moving while your relationship is changing, check-in with the other person to see where they’re at and how they feel about your relationship.

7. Stick To Your Guns

Knowing what you want out of a relationship and future partner is an essential part of navigating the love scene and doing what you can to ensure a happily-ever-after. So be prepared to leave the situation if that other person isn’t ready to fulfill your needs or vision for the future.

If the other person is just straight-up not ready for a relationship, but you are, it’s best to just move on and focus your efforts somewhere else.

To help you out we’ve come up with 17 signs that suggest she’s just as into you as you are her.

1. They Get Their Flirt On

Flirting is basically a subtle way of saying “I’m sexually attracted to you.” When we fancy someone, flirting is second nature. Sometimes we don’t even realize that we’re doing it. If you felt like your date was hitting on you, rest assured that you’re on a successful first date.

2. You’re Both Laughing

At the same things, of course. A shared sense of humor is a pretty good sign that things are going well. If only one person is laughing throughout the date, you probably have different ideas of what’s funny. It doesn’t necessarily mean that they aren’t funny as they could be hilarious to someone else, but if that person isn’t you, they’re not your person.

Think back to a date you had where neither of you made each other laugh (talk about a boring first date), did you ever see them again? If you’re already boring each other on the first date, there isn’t much hope for a future.

3. They Ask Deeper Questions To Get To Know You More

Are they asking questions that go deeper than what you do for a living? Asking what you do from 9-5 every day is a typical question you ask anyone that you’re meeting for the first time. It’s almost rude not to ask someone because of how common it is. You could be getting to know a potential friend or making small talk with someone standing at the bus stop with you because basic questions like this hold no romantic connection.

The questions your date is asking you give you an insight into whether they’re interested in you romantically or not. If they’re asking things such as “why did your last relationship end?” “what do you look for in a partner,” or “are you open to the idea of a serious relationship?” it indicates that they’ve thought about you in a romantic sense because these are compatibility questions.

They’re trying to understand whether you’re a match or not. If your date goes beyond the generic questions that you can ask just about anyone, there might be a second date on the cards (provided they like your answers.)

4. You Have Things in Common

While opposites do attract, you do have to share some common ground. Consider what’s important to you before you go on the first date so you can ask whether it’s a priority to them as well. Are they big on family? Do they prefer early mornings or late nights? Do they want children? If your answers match, you’re in for a good first date!

5. They’ve Already Asked To See You Again

If your date has already said they’d like to see you again before the date is over, you can bet your date is going well! They’re having such a good time with you that they can’t stand the thought of not seeing you again. Second dates made on the first date have a higher follow-through rate, so their best chance at seeing you again is to arrange another date there and then.

6. You Can’t Ignore the Sexual Chemistry Between You Both

Sexual chemistry usually comes down to body language. Are they leaning in closer, using any excuse to touch you, or stare into your eyes and smile without breaking eye contact longer than usual? If you’re both feeling the hots for each other, a second date shouldn’t be too far off.

7. There’s Talk of Future Plans Together

Not anything majorly serious like marriage and babies, but the mention of activities that you’d both like to do together in the near future. Maybe you both want to try a culinary class or this new bar in your local neighborhood. Talk of future plans is a very positive sign as you can both imagine being part of each other’s lives past the first date.

8. It Lasts Longer Than expected

Many people actually measure the success of a date on how long it lasts, which makes sense since why would you stay longer than you have to on a bad date? Now, it doesn’t mean your date has to last nine hours for it to be successful (some of us do have other places to be), but if it lasts longer than you expected for the activity you’ve chosen, it’s a good sign your date is going well.

Typically, going for coffee takes a couple of hours. If you’re there all afternoon, they order another coffee, or they suggest more activities to do on the date, you’re doing something right. If you started at a coffee shop which turns into dinner then drinks, it’s safe to assume that they’re enjoying themselves if the coffee wasn’t enough time with you for them. If they weren’t, they’d shot it like an expresso and be on their way.

9. You Feel Like You Can Be Yourself Around Them

Does your date make you feel super comfortable and at ease to be yourself? Do you find yourself sharing things with them that you only talk to close friends and family about? Are you able to say whatever is on your mind without the fear of judgment? If you can be yourself around them from the get-go, you’re most likely in for more than just a first date.

10. They’re Respectful to Everyone You meet During the Date

How someone speaks to others they don’t care to make a good impression on says a lot about their character. If they go out of their way to be rude or disrespectful to the waiter or bad mouth the couple sat at the next table to you earlier, they may not be a very nice person and give you a sneak peek into how they may treat you when you’re past the trying to impress each other stage.

11. Think About How You Feel During the Date

Chances are if you feel super positive about your first date, they’ll probably be feeling the same way as you tend to bounce off one another. If your date has shut themselves off and makes it hard for you to get to know them, they seem distracted, and you’re the only one talking, you’re going to pick up on this negative energy. However, if it’s going well, you should be able to pick up on this as well.

12. You’ve Exchanged Numbers

It’s quite common to exchange your social media on a first date, people are naturally nosey and you can tell a lot from someone’s Instagram. It’s like a visual diary of what they like to get up to in their spare time and unfollowing them is just as easy as following them in the first place.

But if they ask to exchange numbers, it’s an indication that they at least plan on seeing you again (whether it happens or not is another story.) Texting or calling someone is more personal than sliding into their DM’s and gives you direct access to them. Anyone can find and message your date on Instagram, but only those who they want to speak to will have their number. Plus, it’s more annoying to block someone on your phone than unfollow them.

13. They Share Personal Details With You

We don’t tell a complete stranger that we never want to see again all about our personal life. If your date feels comfortable enough to share intimate parts of their life, they feel safe and secure in your company – two vital foundations for a great first date.

Now, you don’t have to get all up and personal as well, but doing so will give you the opportunity to form a deeper connection. If you stick to surface-level talk all night, your date may feel like you have your guard up or you’re not interested in getting to know them. Either way, this could cause them to pull away from you.

14. They Don’t Mention Their Ex

Bringing up an ex on a first date usually means they’re not over them and ready for a relationship with someone new. Although, just because they didn’t mention them doesn’t mean they’re not thinking about them, but if they brought them up, it’s almost guaranteed – hello red flag!

If your conversation stayed clear of their ex, it’s a good sign that your date is heading in the right direction.

15. They Give You a Compliment

Now, while you probably jumped straight to compliments on your appearance, it doesn’t have to be. While it’s nice to be told that you’re handsome or that the shirt you’re wearing really brings out your eyes, the compliment doesn’t have to be related to your physical features.

In fact, it actually means more if it’s about your character as it means they’ve taken the time to look past your pretty face. “I really like the way you look at the world” or “I feel so comfortable around you” are compliments that’ll stick with you.

16. You Feel Their Presence

When we’re having a bad time on a first date, giving in to distractions is easy, whether it’s getting out our phone, having a stare-off with someone else in the restaurant, or fiddling with the cutlery. If you feel like there’s nowhere else your date would rather be than with you at this moment in time, your date is a success because you’ve managed to keep a complete stranger interested for a night, regardless of whether you see each other again. Signs to look out for are direct eye contact, engaging responses, mirrored body language, and non-fidgety, restless behavior.

17. They Straight Up Tell You That They’re Having a Good Time

Some people are oversharers and won’t leave you guessing as to whether the first date is going well. If they tell you that it’s going well, believe them! Not only will you be able to relax knowing she is keen, but you can begin to plan your next date before the first has finished. 

Fully Trust Your Partner

To maintain a long-distance relationship, you need to fully lean into the idea of completely trusting your partner. While there’s no way to know for sure whether they’re being loyal to you, you need to trust that they are. Don’t let paranoia or jealousy take over and cloud your judgment, it’ll only push them away and could even make you look like the guilty one.

But be open to reassuring your other half within reason if they need it. Expressing how committed you are to the relationship may be something they need to hear when they’re having a bad day or feeling doubtful, but you shouldn’t ever feel like you’re convincing them that you’re trustworthy.

Don’t Start Spamming Their Phone With Texts and Calls

While talking to them all day every day may seem like a no-brainer in a long-distance relationship, you could end up with very little to talk about real quick. You don’t need to share every little detail of your day with your other half to make them feel like they’re still a part of your life.

A couple of texts throughout the day letting them know that they’re on your mind will do. You could even just wish them a good day first thing in the morning if you have a busy day ahead. This will give you so much more to catch up on when you eventually do.

It’s important that you both stay present in your own lives and not become the guy who’s dating his phone. Make sure that you’re putting your phone down to spend time enjoying the things in your life that are right in front of you like your friends and family. If you don’t, you might begin to resent and blame your partner for being absent.

Surprise Them With Gifts Every Now and Then

A good thing about being in a long-distance relationship is that surprises always stay surprises. When you live together you always run the risk of stumbling across surprise gifts, but when you’re in a LDR, the chances of your other half discovering them are slim to none (unless you accidentally tell them). So, take advantage and surprise them!

A bouquet of their favorite flowers, a new book that you think they’ll like, or turning up at their door will have your partner crushing on you like when you first met – a feeling that’s hard to achieve over text alone.

Live Your Life

Although this doesn’t necessarily involve your partner, it’ll positively impact your relationship in the long run. Waiting around and doing nothing but counting down the days until the next time you see each other will make your LDR the only point of happiness in your life, and this will put a great deal of responsibility on your partner. Doing your own thing will take pressure off your relationship and help you to feel less lonely and more fulfilled in your life.

It’ll also give you both more to talk about so your conversations don’t go stale. Sitting on the couch watching Netflix every weekend won’t give you much to talk about except what the main character of the series you’re watching got up to. Be the main character of your own life.

Go On Virtual Date Nights

Date night isn’t over just because you’re in a long-distance relationship. You’re probably not as weirded out by the idea of virtual dates since it became a new normal during lockdown. Where there’s a will there’s a way!

Arrange a virtual date night once a week where you both get dressed up and bond over an activity, just like a physical date. Try cooking and eating a new dinner recipe, making cocktails, or watching a movie you otherwise would’ve seen in the cinema.

To make things more realistic, set the scene. If you’re cooking a new recipe, wear an apron or chef’s hat and set the table with candles and flowers. If it’s watching a movie, make some popcorn. Think about all of the small things that make up the experience in real life and include those in your virtual date night. A little effort will go a long way.

Don’t forget to be more vocal towards your partner than you usually would as you can’t use physical touch to express yourself (you can chill out a little during the movie though). You can’t passionately kiss her or grab her ass to let her know she looks beautiful or that you’re a fan of her new jeans over FaceTime. The words have got to come out of your mouth instead.

Have Phone Sex

It’s important to keep the sexual chemistry up between you both and one of the best ways you can do this is through phone sex. This is where you and your partner exchange sexual fantasies over the phone whilst you both masturbate. If you’d like to heat things up even more, turn the camera on (but don’t forget to wear a good pair of boxers, she’ll be able to see any holes now).

If you’re a phone sex newbie, start by imagining what you’d be doing to each other if you were in the same bed and talking them through it over the phone. If you take it in turns to finish each other’s sentences, you can get a pretty good rhythm going where no one is left high and dry, literally. Make sure to describe any details that would help to intensify the sensation from the cologne you’re wearing to what your lips feel like on their skin.

Leave out “I would be” and switch it out for “I am” to help with visualization. For example, “I am kissing your body from your neck all the way down to your inner thighs” sounds more like it’s actually happening rather than “I would be kissing your body from your neck all the way down to your inner thighs.”

Once you’re no longer a stranger to phone sex, try role-playing or giving sexual instructions to one another like a sexual game of Twister to keep things exciting. Just like you would if you were having sex in person.

Continue To Flirt With Each Other

Sending a flirty text can be used to build suspense on the day that you decide to have phone sex. Receiving an unexpected text saying “I can’t wait to hear what you’re going to do to me later” will allow them to feel your excitement through the phone before it’s even begun. But it should also be used as a way to keep the spark alive, with or without phone sex. Because if you don’t, having phone sex will be hella awkward.

Always Have a Time Frame of How Long You’ll Go Without Seeing Each Other

Without an end date in mind where you can finally see each other again, the in-between stages become much harder than they need to be. Knowing how long you’ve got left until you’re reunited and that you’re only temporarily apart will give you more of an incentive to stick it out, especially in those times of cold feet where you find yourself asking whether a LDR is really what you want.

Ideally, if possible, you should aim to schedule a meet-up within three months. Any longer than this and all the reasons why you love them and decided to do a LDR in the first place that was so clearly imprinted in your brain could begin to fade.

Checking in with each other every three months max will remind you both of why it’s worthwhile. It’s also important to get your physical touch fix with the woman you love as phone sex and accidentally bumping shoulders with someone on the tube will only do so much.

Establish Whether It’s Temporary or Permanent

Most long-distance relationships are temporary while you’re transitioning to a new job or waiting for the right time to bring up the conversation of who’s moving where. However, there are some couples who have no desire to change the relationship as they actually prefer long-distance relationships. The independence, a greater appreciation for the time you spend together, and the opportunity to explore new places are just some of the reasons why a long-distance relationship is desirable.

Establishing whether you want the LDR to be temporary or permanent will ensure that you don’t end up in one with someone who has a different end goal to you. If you want it to be temporary until you find a solution that suits you both, make this clear to your other half in the beginning.

Don’t Do Anything You Wouldn’t Feel Comfortable With Your Partner Doing

Flirting with the woman behind you in the line to get your coffee might be some innocent fun for you, but how would you feel watching the love of your life do the same thing? Stay clear of anything that could make them feel uncomfortable and jeopardize their trust. A small 5-minute encounter could have big repercussions on your relationship.

Schedule in Time To Catch Up With Each Other

If you purely leave it up to chance that your schedules will line up, you’ll probably go weeks without speaking. Arrange a day and time to catch up and stick to it – no one wants a flaky LDR partner. But don’t commit to the same day and time every single week, mix things up to keep it fresh and less routine-like.