47 Things To Talk About With Your Crush

Do you get that warm fuzzy feeling when you see a particular person at the gym? Does your heart beat fast when your co-worker walks past you? Do you suddenly lose the ability to speak when they ask to borrow something? If you answered yes to all those questions you’re probably crushin’ hard.

Honestly, it happens to everyone. You want to make your move, but the words won’t come out. Having a crush is both thrilling and causes sleepless nights. Well, here are a few helpful things to talk about with your crush that will get rid of the awkwardness you normally feel. 

Using some of these clever conversation starters, talk to your crush effortlessly and gradually add in some flirty comments. We’ve got everything from conversation starters, topics for texting, and things to chat about on the phone. Turn that crush into love. Before you know it, you won’t be having any more sleepless nights dreaming about your crush. Instead, your crush will be sleeping next to you. Here’s a look at 47 things to talk about with your crush. 

Getting To Know Your Crush

Once you establish lines of communication, you want to get to know the person. The best part at the beginning is getting to know your crush’s likes, dislikes, dreams, and childhood stories. Here are some good topics to start off a conversation.

47 Things To Talk About With Your Crush

1. What Do You Like To Do on Dates?

The ultimate goal is to ask your crush out on a date. Hence, you want to find out what your crush likes doing on dates. They could be the adventurous type and love rock climbing. Maybe they want to keep it simple and go to the movies. Or they could enjoy dinner and dancing. With this vital information, you can plan a special date night she will enjoy.

2. Turnoffs

Once you find out what your crush likes on a date, it’s time to find out what they hate. It’s a fun topic and lets you know if you’re compatible. You might even share some of the same turnoffs. At the same time, it’ll help you understand what not to do for a date. 

3. Do You Believe in Aliens?

There are specific topics that everyone has an opinion on one way or the other. Perhaps, your crush believes that aliens will one day arrive on Earth to enslave the human race. It’s also possible they think aliens came to Earth during the prehistoric era. There’s also the strong chance they don’t believe in extraterrestrial life at all. It’s a good topic to keep the conversation going. 

4. Talk About Family 

Everyone has good and bad things to say about their family. Talking about your crush’s family is the easiest and smartest topic. At the same time, it’ll let you learn more about their personality, childhood, and home life.

It’s also a good idea to open up about your own family and childhood. 

5. Most Vivid Childhood Memory

Once you get on the topic of family, discussing their childhood becomes natural. The best way to get your crush to open up is to ask about a vivid childhood memory. It could be one of the happiest moments of their life or a difficult time they went through.

Sharing these types of memories is a sure way of getting closer. 

6. What Are Your Favorite Hobbies?

Nothing brings people together like hobbies. Finding out your crush’s hobbies will help you get to know them better. Plus, knowing their hobbies also helps with planning future dates. Chances are you share a few common hobbies as well. 

7. What Are Your Dreams? 

We all have dreams that we keep to ourselves. It could be starring in a movie, owning the Dallas Cowboys, writing a graphic novel, or starting a business. We’re often afraid to chase our dreams but even more scared of sharing them. Dream sharing is often the first step to getting closer. 

8. Do You Have Pets?

Some people love animals and others prefer not to be around them. A lot of people could have grown up with a family pet like a dog, cat, or hamster. It’s also possible they got a pet when they moved out to live alone. Maybe, they never had a pet, which is still a great topic to discuss. 

9. What Animal Would Your Crush Want To Be?

For the most part, we all identify with some animals. There might be a reason their favorite animal is a dog, cat, monkey, bull, or bird. As an excellent conversation starter, It’ll help with knowing more about their personality and childhood. 

10. Favorite Music

Several topics can be hit or miss. However, music is one of those guaranteed conversation starters. Everyone loves music, whether it be oldies, the newest hits, or guilty pleasures. Music also reveals a lot about a person’s feelings and is a window into their soul. 

11. Common Friends

Getting that conversation started is sometimes challenging. Overcoming those nervous feelings is nearly impossible. Therefore, ask straightforward questions to get things started. Find out if you and your crush share any common friends. It’s an excellent topic because you’ll both have a lot to say and feel comfortable.

12. Find Out About Life Goals

Having life goals is essential for everyone. It gives us all something to achieve in life. A goal could be anything like buying a house, creating a business, or traveling the world. You might have some of the same life goals, or discover you have different plans in mind.

The closer you become, the more you’ll learn about each other’s life goals, such as marriage, starting a family, or changing careers. It’s the best way to keep the conversation going and get to know them better. 

13. Favorite TV Show

It’s always wise to ease into getting to know your crush. Finding out about favorite TV shows is an excellent way to learn more about them without moving too quickly. It could go two ways that can work in your favor.

First, if you like the same show, you can always suggest re-watching the series. At the same time, you could both introduce each other to new shows. Having an open mind in these situations will move the relationship along. 

14. Favorite Travel Destination

The world is vast, and there is a lot to see. There are historical sites, beautiful beaches, and iconic locations. Your crush will more than likely want to see another part of the world at some point in time.

Sharing travel destinations is a great way to get closer. Plus, once you both fall in love, you’ll probably go to one of those travel destinations together. 

15. Do You Believe in Ghosts?

Similar to the alien question, most people have an opinion on ghosts. Some don’t believe in them and think they’re just stories. On the other hand, your crush could have a haunting story to share with you. Maybe they saw a ghost once or could feel the presence of someone around them, spiking their interest in the supernatural. 

16. What Are Your Favorite Books?

There’s a good chance your crush likes to read. Perhaps they read classic novels, autobiographies, or mystery stories. Regardless, it’s a good topic of conversation that’ll likely open up more things to discuss. 

17. Celebrity Crush

Celebrity crush is an interesting topic to tackle. We all had celebrity crushes throughout our life. It’s the perfect question to avoid awkward silences. It’s a cute question that could reveal much about the potential partner. 

18. What’s the Funniest Joke You’ve Heard?

There’s no way to go wrong with a joke or two. Nothing alleviates nervous energy like a good joke. Ask your crush about the funniest joke or story they have ever heard. It might be a knock-knock joke, but it likely has a story behind it too.

19. Texting Your Crush

At a certain point, it’s time to exchange phone numbers. It’s the only way to keep things going. Technology has even influenced the way we ask each other flirty questions. Thanks to texting, the days of sending your crush a message via telegram or fax are over.

20. What’s Your Passion?

As the romantic relationship blossoms, the questions will become more personal. It’s sometimes tough to convey emotions through texts. With the help of emojis, asking about their passion is an excellent conversation starter. It’s a deep question that allows you both to open up. 

21. Favorite Movie or TV Shows From Childhood

Favorite movies and TV shows are always good topics to start the conversation. It’s a personal question without moving too fast. Plus, childhoods are often full of funny stories and nostalgia. It’s the type of question that can open up a whole new topic of conversation. 

22. Who’s Your Favorite Superhero? 

Nowadays, there’s a new superhero movie coming out every week, from Captain America and Black Widow to Superman and Wonder Woman. Ask your crush about their favorite superhero; you might be pleasantly surprised. 

23. What’s Your Favorite Food?

At the core of every good relationship is food. Most love stories start with a good conversation over dinner or breakfast. Of course, there are a few steps to take before you get there.

Asking about the best thing they ever ate will give insight into their personality. You’ll earn bonus points if you know exactly where to go for that first dinner. 

24. What Are Your Favorite Movies or TV Shows

A funny question that could generate a great question is asking about movies they’d turn into musicals. Maybe they’re really into horror and want to see Scream the musical or a song-and-dance version of Face/Off.

It’s wise to have some fun conversations before you dive into those deeper questions. It’ll start the conversation on a light note. 

25. How Would You Survive a Zombie Apocalypse?

There’s one question more important than life goals, dreams, and pet peeves. Nothing is more important than finding out how they’d survive a zombie apocalypse. Ask them what their plan is to eat and provide for others.

Where would they hide from the zombies, and how would they protect themselves? These are all very important questions. 

26. Passing on Useless Information 

With all our vast knowledge, there’s a lot of useless information too. Discussing useless information is a fun little conversation starter that includes everything from the inventor of the box to the history of the desk.

That all sounds fascinating, to be honest. There’s really no way to go wrong with a question like that. 

27. What’s Your Favorite Fandom?

Everyone has their favorite fandom nowadays. Of course, there are the die-hard Taylor Swift or Lady Gaga fans, then there are those fans who are obsessed with Star Wars, Marvel, and Harry Potter.

It’s a guaranteed way to get to know each other. Who knows, you might even share the same fandom.

28. Weirdest Fear

There are specific fears that are more common than others, like fear of flying or the dark. However, people also have irrational and weird fears. Perhaps, they are deadly afraid of clowns, bees, or clowns shooting bees out of their mouths? It doesn’t sound that irrational after all, does it? 

29. You’re the Expert

A common mistake when getting to know someone is not really listening. Everyone wants to feel heard, so asking the right questions requires listening. Ask your crush what subject they’re an expert on and know better than anyone else.

It’s the perfect question because your crush will feel heard and get to talk about something they love. 

30. Job History

Jobs can reveal a person’s character, principles, and work ethic. Most people start their first job when they’re in high school. They often go on a journey through various employment and gain all kinds of experience. 

31. Texting or Calling?

At one time in history, the only way to communicate was by sending a telegram. Now, there are a million ways to talk through social media. However, calling and texting are still the most popular.

Some people prefer to text as the awkward silence kills them while some people shine when they get on the phone. 

32. Taking the Next Step Forward

It’s a simple evolution from texting to talking. However, phone conversations can be a lot tougher than texting. You gotta be quick on your feet and ready to keep the conversation going. That applies to those first few dates too. 

33. What Do You Look for in a Relationship? 

You’ll reach a juncture when it’s time to take the next step. By this point, there’s a good chance your crush is crushing on you too. It’s a good indication if you’re genuinely vibing and compatible with each other. It’s time to find out what they like and look for in a potential partner. 

34. Most Embarrassing Moment? 

The best thing about embarrassing moments is they happen to everyone. Maybe you fell during graduation, forgot your lines during the school play, or passed out drunk at your mom’s 50th birthday party.

Perhaps you did all three. Either way, embarrassing moments are a great conversation starter. Plus, it’s good to laugh at ourselves. Girls love a guy with a sense of humor. 

35. What’s Your Guilty Pleasure?

It doesn’t matter if it’s cheesy 80s romantic comedies, chocolate chip ice cream, or reality shows on an island. Everyone has a guilty pleasure. Most people only let a select few know their guilty pleasure. Soon, you’ll be sharing your deepest and darkest secrets. 

36. Scariest Cartoon

Cartoons are a part of every child’s life. While most cartoons make kids laugh, a few have a reputation for scaring them. Your crush probably has a few fears, no matter how irrational. Sharing our fears will make you vulnerable and bring you closer.

37. What’s Your Biggest Pet Peeve? 

Questions about your crush’s pet peeves are among the most critical questions. Knowing all the things they hate is just as vital as all the stuff they love. More importantly, finding out their pet peeves means you can avoid doing it or use it against them when they annoy you.

38. Favorite Pizza Topping? 

Asking about your crush’s favorite pizza toppings serves a few purposes. First, the topping will reveal more about their character. Are they a simple cheese pizza person, a pepperoni lover, or do they buck the system and go for pineapple? That leads directly to the second part, asking them out for a slice of pizza. 

39. What’s On Your Bucket List?

There’s no way to go wrong when asking about a person’s bucket list. Everyone has a bucket list, even if they don’t write it down. Maybe they want to go to the pyramids in Egypt, visit the Eiffel Tower in Paris, or eat the greatest grilled cheese sandwich. All are reasonable bucket list options. 

40. How Was High School?

High school is quite the experience for everyone. Talking to your crush about their high school experience will give you more insight into who they are. Maybe they were the most popular kid in school, the super athlete, or the nerd.

Regardless, they’ll have some good stories that you can relate to as well. 

41. What’s the Worst Day of Your Life?

Eventually, the conversation will steer into some deeper areas of discussion. Some of these questions might be difficult to discuss, but if you’re comfortable, it’ll feel natural. Sharing the worst days of your life will feel like a weight lifted off your shoulders.

Depending on the situation, your crush might have a tough time talking about it, so don’t push and let it happen on its own. 

42. How Do You Relax?

Try to throw in some light questions as the conversation goes deeper. Relaxing tips are good for everyone involved. Maybe they relax by kicking back, listening to music, or watching a movie.

Other people like to hit the gym or go for a long run. If none of those take your fancy, there’s always yoga or chilling out on a beach. 

43. Let’s Talk About the Past

Most people have been in past relationships. It could have been a fling or the love of their life. However, the part of their life is over, and they’re ready to move on with someone new. Talking about past relationships without getting jealous is a crucial step forward.

It’ll help you understand how the person operates in a relationship and see if you’re compatible. 

44. What’s Your Proudest Moment?

We’ve all had moments in our life that make us proud. So it’s the perfect question to ask your crush. Maybe it was when they landed their dream job or could afford that expensive car. It’s one of the best ways to get closer to your crush. Turn that sweet, innocent crush into an intense romantic relationship. 

45. What Superpower Do You Want? 

Discussing superpowers is a good conversation starter because everyone thinks about it. Everyone wishes they had superpowers at some point in their life. Maybe they wish they could fly over traffic or control the weather. 

46. What Do You Most Admire in People?

What your crush admires in someone reveals a lot of their personality and morals. Perhaps, they appreciate honesty, creative talent, and hard work. It’ll give a small glimpse into their character. 

47. What Movies Do You Like and Hate

Every year thousands of people flock to movie theatres to see the newest superhero blockbuster, romantic thriller, or critically acclaimed epic. However, your crush might hate a movie that most people adore. They simply have different tastes than everyone else. Chances are they love a film that everyone hates too.