The 16 Best Sex Books for Men To Help You in the Sack

1. She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide To Pleasuring Women - Ian Kerner

As the title suggests, this one is all about getting your lady off. She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide To Pleasuring Women is one of the most popular and revered books about oral sex and how men can keep their partner happy. Author Ian Kerner offers techniques and tips spliced with humor to get his point across. If you need more of a reason to grab a copy of this book, here is what Emily Morse, a doctor of Human Sexuality and the host of the SiriusXM Radio show and podcast, Sex With Emily, told GQ:

2. The Joy of Sex: The Ultimate Revised Edition

Despite being first published way back in 1972, this book is still regarded as a must for any man (or woman) who wants to explore their sexuality with their partner. Originally written by Dr. Alex Comfort, this latest version has been updated by Susan Quilliam, a relationship psychologist, and includes a host of new information sure to turn you into a sex-machine. This new edition includes data based on scientific research into sex, sections about pornography, sex when you get older, and the importance of growing through sex, along with diagrams and illustrations to show you what needs to be done. 

The Joy of Sex: The Ultimate Revised Edition is a comprehensive guide to sex with your partner and a must-read for singles and couples who want a healthy, sexual relationship. 

3. 101 Great Nights of Sex - Laura Corn

Obviously, you want more than 101 nights of great sex during your relationship, but this gem of a book from Laura Corn will help you get more than your fair share of fun-filled nights in the sack. This book is a little different in that it contains 101 sealed envelopes, one for you and one for her, plus a bonus envelope, that you open once a week. All you need to do is carry out the instructions and let the good times roll. There is no telling what sexual adventure each envelope could lead you and your partner on, making this book an exciting sexual experiment. 

This 2020 edition of the book contains 30 new seduction envelopes sure to provide you and your partner some fun sexy times. 101 Great Nights of Sex is sure to invigorate your sex life and provide you with some new and exciting ways to pleasure each other. 

4. Position of the Day: Sex Every Day in Every Way - Lorelei Sharkey and Emma Taylor

This one is more of a novelty book but it still provides you with a lot of different ways to get jiggy with it. 366 to be precise. There is a sex position for every day of the year, plus one extra for those leap years. Each page of this thick book details a sex position with simple diagrams so you know what you are doing. 

You can start off easy with positions such as the Corporate Manager or the Wet Blanket before moving on to something like The Snow Blower or the Quasimodo. Although many of the positions require a strong workbench or even extra participants, there are enough positions here to keep you busy in the bedroom. A fun book not to be taken too seriously that can spice up your bedroom activities. 

5. The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment - Jack Morin

Sex therapist Dr. Jack Morin analyzed over 1,000 sexual stories and came up with guidelines on how men can harness their sexual feelings and use them to be better lovers and partners. It does more than just give you tips for performing better in the sack and delves into the psychology of sex and how men can overcome obstacles in their sex life from past experiences to find their sexual passion and desire. Morin looks at sexual thoughts and feelings that might be frowned upon by the general population and how you can harness these and find a way to embrace your fantasies and explore your kinks with your lover. 

6. Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex - Nina Hartley

If you really want to experience sex like a pornstar then you better take advice from one. Legendary performer Nina Hartley’s mind-blowing book will have you getting hot under the collar as you discover what it takes to bring your partner to climax. This isn’t for the faint-hearted, with Hartley’s erotic and sexually explicit language sure to have you blushing. She covers everything from foreplay to oral sex to sex toys and everything in between. There are even chapters devoted to swinging, BDSM, and S&M for those with kinks. 

Hartley covers a lot of ground in her book and is a big advocate of safe and consenting sex between two adults, which is paramount to any successful sexual relationship. She is all about celebrating your kinks and fetishes and being open and honest with what you want from your partner so you can both achieve sexual intimacy at the deepest level. 

7. Love Worth Making: How To Have Ridiculously Good Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship - Stephen Snyder

It can be easy to lose your sexual edge when in a long-term relationship, but that doesn’t have to be according to Stephen Snyder M.D. In this award-winning book, Snyder outlines how you can still have a healthy sexual relationship despite being with the same person for many years. He uses stories from his career as a therapist to show how you can keep the spark alive in your sex life.  Snyder looks at how sex is about connection and what you can do to achieve a long-lasting sexual connection with your partner. Snyder shows you that the passion doesn’t have to die just because you’ve been with the same person for a decade or more.

8. Playing Fair: A Guide to Nonmonogamy for Men into Women - Pepper Mint

If you and your partner are thinking about having an open relationship, this book is for you. Playing Fair: A Guide to Nonmonogamy for Men into Women provides you with all the information you need to know before letting other people into your current situation. This book will answer all the big questions you have, such as how to navigate jealousy and control your emotions, and is a great entry point for those looking to try an alternative lifestyle. This book can help cultivate a respectful nonmonogamous relationship between you and your partner so you can both enjoy being in an open relationship without any trepidation. 

9. The Guide to Great Sex: How To Get Better in Bed and Take Your Sex Life to the Next Level - Michael Karp

As the title of this book suggests, it is all about improving your lovemaking between the sheets so you can become the ultimate sexual tyrannosaurus. Written by former sex columnist Michael Karp, who uses his knowledge and know-how to broach a wide range of topics and subjects, The Guide to Great Sex: How To Get Better in Bed and Take Your Sex Life to the Next Level is a fantastic look at how to get the best out of you and your partner in the bedroom. Karp even shares his own stories while giving advice on everything from oral sex to sexual anxieties. Check out all the points covered below:

• What it means to have great sex.
• The science behind pleasure and orgasms.
• A complete breakdown of foreplay.
• Oral sex: fellatio and cunnilingus techniques.
• 16 of the best sex positions for the hottest sex and deepest intimacy.
• How sex toys can improve your sex life and which ones the author recommends.
• The one simple yet rare act that can take your sex life to the next level.
• How to master multitasking in the bedroom.
• The balance of dominance and submission.
• Look at how to communicate openly with your partner about sexual issues.
• How to unlock sexual fantasies and fetishes within you and your partner.
• How to overcome 9 different sexual anxieties and insecurities.
• 3 little-known sexual concepts and how to take advantage of them.

10. The Ultimate Guide To Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners - Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian

For those not afraid to explore, this informative book has everything you need to know about experiencing pleasure from your prostate. Just as the G-spot is the kicker for women, the P-spot causes just as much pleasure for men. While many are unsure about playing with their anus, this book will put you at ease. It features tips on how to have successful anal sex that won’t leave you in pain and all the techniques you need to know. It covers everything from how to slip a finger in to full-on pegging. While it won’t be for everyone, if you have ever thought about going down this path on your journey of sexual exploration, this is the book to read. 

11. Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life - Emily Nagoski

This has nothing to do with Nirvana or men for that matter. Despite this, Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life is a handy read for any man looking for an insight into women’s sexuality. Although written for women, there is a lot you can take away from this book, including why clitoral stimulation is so important and what makes a healthy sexual relationship. 

As erotic content creator and cam model, Emilia Song told GQ; “It’s geared towards cis women, but the advice that Dr. Nagoski gives is applicable to men, too. She busts numerous myths about sex, desire, and anatomy, and explains how and why we experience desire. There are exercises at the end of each chapter that you can do with your partner (or partners).”

12. Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out - Jessica Graham

There is more to sex than the actual act of sex. Sure, fucking is great, but it is the emotional connection you form when being intimate with someone that makes the whole experience worthwhile. This book by Jessica Graham looks at how to find that connection while still having a passionate and kinky sex life. She offers tips and tools to achieve mindfulness sex with your partner and how you can achieve better sex through being more present and emotional during sex. 

13. Kama Sutra Workout - DK

Similar to the previously mentioned Position of the Day: Sex Every Day in Every Way, this book offers up to 300 sensual sexercises, with the main difference being they are taken from the Kama Sutra. As most of you probably know, the Kama Sutra is an ancient Indian text that talks a lot about sex and sexual positions, but there is more to it than that. The Kama Sutra is a guide to living and encompasses all aspects of creating a life with someone else.

Of course, this is often skipped over, with most people more concerned about the wild and wacky sexual positions that make up the text. This handy book gathers them all in one place so you and your partner can try out the many positions from the comfort of home. It has clear and easy-to-follow instructions with funny diagrams explaining it all. All the positions are meant to improve and strengthen your muscles, with tips provided on how to get the best out of each sexual act. If you want to learn a little more about the original Kama Sutra then I advise you to read Alain Daniélou’s translation–The Complete Kama Sutra: The First Unabridged Modern Translation of the Classic Indian Text. You can grab a copy here. 

14. Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence - Esther Perel

Keeping the sexual desire alive during a long-term romance can be hard. As the pandemic has proven, being stuck in the same place with your loved one for months on end can take its toll. New York therapist Esther Perel investigates what it takes to keep the spark burning and how you can keep things hot and heavy between sheets despite living in domestic normalcy. Perel uses her own studies to examine love and lust in a relationship and how to combine the two to transform your lovemaking.

15. Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How To Get It Back - Dr. Laurie Mintz

Sex therapist and psychology professor Dr. Laurie Mintz is here to remind everyone why the clitoris is such an important part of lovemaking. Gathering Infomation from various studies and resources, Mintz looks at the cultural history of the clitoris, the myths surrounding it, and provides tips on how to spark an orgasm. The final chapter is also aimed at men and what they can do. If that doesn’t sway you, “two studies published in the Journal of Sexual & Relationship Therapy found that reading this book enhances sexuality. Women orgasm more, improve their body image, and become more sexually satisfied. Men learn how to pleasure women and become better sexual communicators.” What more could you want from a book about the clit? 

16. Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships - Stella Harris

Looking to explore kinks in your relationship but not sure how to approach your partner? Stella Harris has you covered. She addresses how to express your sexual fantasies to your partner and how to deal with theirs in a kind and compassionate way. Harris provides straightforward advice on how to communicate with your partner about your desires and how to share your kinks and be vulnerable. This book is chock full of helpful hints and tips and is a must-read for those looking to explore their sexual side.